Ok, so this is a topic I am currently fired up about at the moment. We recently suffered a bought of bullying with not one but two kids in our house. And of course, the school didn’t do anything. This is a hard topic to write about given the nature of what has happened so I will be using discretion and keeping names out of this blog.
So two of my children are in middle school. To say this middle school is shitty is BEYOND an understatement. The principle is seriously a joke. So let me start from the beginning.
I have a child in 8th and 6th grade at this school. When the 8th grader had started at this school in 6th grade they suffered a tremendous amount of bullying. This is mostly due to the fact that they are one of a few caucasian kids in a predominantly African American neighborhood. Now I live in an area that preaches teaching good Christian morals. Well, that is all fine and dandy, but if you don’t use them it is kind of a waste in my opinion.
They were picked on by a lot of kids and had very few friends. The friends they had were also caucasian and bullied. So this obviously raises a red flag in my mind. For crying out loud it is 2019 and we are still teaching our kids to be segregated. Where are all these people who talk about all lives matter? Not in my town.
Anyway, back to the original story. My child was very distraught but pushed through and joined extracurriculars. They chose to handle the situation by telling the principal. What happened? Nothing. Why? No proof. You are kidding me right?!? I even called and talked to the principle and had letters from these kids. Nothing was ever done. It got so bad the child began cutting themselves. I tried counseling and talking but nothing was working. The school was made aware and offered them the school counselor who again did nothing. When you see changes in a student that are very apparent how do you not believe them when they say there is an issue.
Mysteriously now I am taking action the reports are ‘not there.’
On to 7th grade, we switched schools. By this point, my child, who was a straight a student, began getting D’s. Unfortunately, for 8th grade, my child was back at the original school. Within 2 weeks of being back, they had attempted suicide in the school bathroom and was very close to ending their life. I wish I could say this was the end of it but it is not.
We have been blamed by the school, had Department of Social Services at our house, and the bullies responsible were not held responsible. The sad fact is the school didn’t handle the bullying issue and this is what it led to. In addition to this, three kids found my child and left them there and started laughing instead of getting help. Who are we raising?
What happened to the kids who left my child there? Nothing. The bully who spread rumors that the entire grade started using as a way to bully my child? A call to a parent. When it happened again even after the suicide attempt. Another call. What is a phone call going to do?
While the 8th grader is now going to a different school after being homeschooled for medical reasons, I still have a 6th grader in this school who is now being bullied for the 8th grader’s actions. Every day they come home telling me a story about what is happening to them.
I again have told the principle and nothing is happening. I now have to fight with the school board and I am being bullied by the principal. The principle is seriously blaming ‘home problems’ for everything that is happening. We were cleared by Social Services and both children have said more than once it is an issue with the school.
Do you see a pattern here? Bullying isn’t just happening to children, but to the adults as well.
So there is my story. I hope it inspires you to take a close look at the school your child is in and how the school handles bullying.
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Ambika is a project manager with a Master’s Degree in IT Project Management and 8 years of experience helping companies organize business processes and projects. She works from home while raising 3 children. She has been studying Dr. Pillai's practices on spiritual enlightenment for 3 years and is a certified Pillai Center Coach.